If you are too short, or if you have some physical disability or if no matter how hard you try, you can’t get that GMAT score to get you to the best school, you might not be able to do much about those natural limitations.But there is a lot you can do to improve other aspects of who you are – your style, your manner of communication, your sense of humor, and your level of fitness among other things.But this shouldn’t make any difference to your own life and your own sense of self-worth.After all, we all have our own path in life, our own unique set of circumstances, talents, abilities and opportunities.Your mission should be not being the best out there at any costs but making the most out of what you have, and being the best person that can be considering all the circumstances of your life, and all your great qualities as well as limitations.
There is nothing wrong with it, and this is just life.
But as you remind yourself of the above points periodically, among doing other things, it will surely help you deal with your jealousy and work toward focusing on your current partner – the person you love and on all of the good things you have together now – and not on his past life and his past dating experiences.
We often talk about stepmoms overdoing it and needing to step back from all their responsibilities; needing to take a break from taking care of everything and everyone.
Stepmoms, when you start getting frustrated about this, remember these four words: YOU CAN’T FIX IT. And as much as you might love your husband and want to make things better for him, you can only do that in communicate better with their child’s stepmom and choose to deal with her rather than her ex. He either chooses to lay down some ground rules with her or he chooses to continue letting the dynamic be as it is. And you get to go about your business focusing on all the things that bring you joy, knowing that whatever stress she brings, you’re more protected from it than you would be if you were right in the line of fire.
For those of you who can make that work, I commend you! This will be a challenge for those of you who define yourselves as control freaks.Before she knows it, she’s crossed a boundary she couldn’t see and mom is up in arms accusing her of overstepping and trying to take over. We’re the new kid on the block (even if we’ve been around for years). What your husband wants is to feel supported by you.